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I wrote this book to be affordable, useful, and intimate, a companion for anyone navigating life after sexual violence, childhood sexual abuse, or trafficking. Too many resources for survivors are clinical, expensive, or written from the outside looking in. Seeking is different. It is written from the inside, in a survivor’s voice, with compassion, honesty, and hard-earned understanding.
This book does not ask you to rush, to “get over it,” or to follow a rigid set of steps. Instead, it offers gentle guidance, practical exercises, and reflections to help you reconnect with yourself and find meaning in your own way, at your own pace.
It is about recognizing the beauty in survival and the courage it takes to keep going. It is about validating your anger and grief while also nurturing your hope, your agency, and your future. Most of all, it is about reminding you that what was done to you does not define who you are.
Why I Wrote This Book
I know what it feels like to search for resources and find so few that truly reflect the survivor’s perspective. My purpose is to change that. Seeking is part of a larger body of work, alongside Trauma Brain, my Believe Survivors project, and the conversations I share through Substack, YouTube, and Spotify, all dedicated to survivors, healing, and justice.
This book belongs to all of us. To the ones who endured, to the ones who still carry scars, to the ones who fight for safety and justice every day. My deepest hope is that Seeking gives you a sense of companionship on your path, and a reminder that you are not alone.
We are survivors. We are seekers. And our purpose matters.
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The Self-Discovery Portal is a space for exploring who you are, how you’ve come to be, and where you want to go next.
It’s not about fixing yourself. It’s about finding yourself… recognizing the patterns, insights, and strengths that have always been there, even if hidden by trauma, silence, or circumstance.
This entry is part 10 of 11 in the series Self-Discovery
Trauma leaves an imprint on your body and mind. It can make ordinary life feel heavier, and sometimes it can feel like your nervous system is always on alert. This is not a sign that you are weak or broken. It is your body’s natural survival response to danger. The good news is that your nervous system can learn to settle again. With time, compassion, and practice, you can reclaim a sense of calm and safety in your body and mind.
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About the Author
Kimberly Revis Callis is a writer, analyst, and survivor whose life has spanned continents and industries. She built a successful international career before a catastrophic medical crisis grounded in a lifetime of unacknowledged trauma forced her to start over.
She is also the author of Seeking: Healing, Hope and Agency for Survivors of Sexual Trauma, Trauma Brain: Acquired Neurodivergence and Complex Traumatic Stress, an exploration of the neurobiological aftermath of complex trauma, and the Stoning Demons series about Complex PTSD and cannabis.
Seeking will be released in December 2025, but preorder customers will receive early review copies in October. This is my way of thanking you for walking this journey with me and supporting the work.
Preorders also make a real difference. Every book I write is independently published through Tregaryn.com, with no outside funding or corporate backing. By preordering, you not only receive early access to Seeking but also directly support the ongoing work I do through books, the Believe Survivors project, and the writing and conversations I share on Substack, YouTube, and Spotify.
Seeking
Seeking: A Survivor’s Companion for Reclamation and Return
Seeking is a companion. A poetic, trauma-informed offering for survivors of sexual violence who are ready to reclaim their bodies, their stories, and their sense of purpose. Written in a voice that is both fierce and tender, this book walks beside you through the nonlinear terrain of healing. Naming what hurts, honoring what protects, and gently inviting what wants to grow.
Structured around chapters that explore safety, intuition, connection, resilience, and justice, Seeking offers layered reflections, somatic practices, and survivor-centered wisdom that speak directly to the body’s memory and the soul’s longing. It does not rush you. It does not demand transformation. It meets you where you are with language that affirms, rituals that ground, and truths that refuse to be silenced.
Whether you are just beginning to name what happened or deep in the work of integration, Seeking offers a steady hand. It is a book about returning—not to who you were before, but to who you’ve always been beneath the harm.
This is not a book about fixing yourself. It is a book about finding yourself. And it was written for you.
If You Need Support
I’m a survivor, nearly 60 years old now, and I’ve lived long enough to see what this kind of harm does to a lifetime. The truth is, it doesn’t just happen and end. It weaves itself through the years, shaping the way we see ourselves, our relationships, our bodies, our futures. It’s heavy, and it leaves marks you carry in silence for life.
I’ve also learned that speaking up, breaking that silence, and standing with others who’ve been through it matters. It shifts the shame back to where it belongs and reminds us that survival itself is a form of resistance.
I create and share my work to stand with survivors of childhood sexual abuse, sexual assault, traumatic sexualization, and sex trafficking. If you’re carrying the weight of these experiences, you are not alone — and you deserve support, safety, and healing.
Here are some trusted places you can reach out to:
- RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network) — rainn.org | 800-656-HOPE (24/7, confidential)
- National Sexual Violence Resource Center — nsvrc.org
- Darkness to Light (focused on child sexual abuse) — d2l.org
- Stop It Now! (resources and prevention for CSA) — stopitnow.org
- 1in6 (support for male survivors of sexual violence) — 1in6.org
Please know: reaching out for help is an act of strength, not weakness. Whether you’re looking for crisis support, information, or community, these organizations can be a starting place.
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